Gemma came to us because she had no intimacy in her marriage from her husband. The issues started slowly; she didn’t notice at first. But then over time, sex within their marriage became a thing of the past. And then gradually, with that, the intimacy between the couple also declined.
Intimacy is important for Gemma. It’s what sets her apart from a platonic relationship she can have with anyone. She’s tried to talk to her partner, but he’s not interested in his feelings.
Gemma’s husband’s work means he’s stressed. And much as she hates to admit it, now that she looks back, she feels like she may have created the emotional and sexual problems their marriage now faces. Or at least contributed to it.
By making his life too easy.
From the start, Gemma was always the stronger partner. And so, she made allowances for her husband who needed more support. The last thing she expected from him was for them to then end up with no intimacy in their marriage. He’s her husband for goodness sake, he will always want her.
Men always want sex, don’t they?
The love is there. But Gemma even doubts this from time to time. Her husband struggles to get and then maintain an erection for her. She worries that she’s let herself go. That he is having an affair, and this causes their lack of intimacy.
But deep down she knows that isn’t the case. He doesn’t have time for an affair, anyway.
The issue is, knowing something and feeling it are different.
As humans, we’re governed by our emotions.
She’s tried spicing things up, talking to him, and surprising him. She’s taken the pressure off about having kids. Put it back on. Sought to find him a fresh job, a new career even.
But he’s not interested and nothing ever changes.
They live like brother and sister.
That’s not enough for Gemma. She wants passion and fun and physical vitality in her life. She doesn’t see why she has to lose out on that just because she’s been married for a few years. Gemma is more than just a wife. She’s a person with needs.
And she needs her husband, who she loves with a fullness in her heart. And she desires with a sense of overpowering wonder which doesn’t fit within their sexless relationship.
Let’s be frank, as women, we link sex to being emotionally fulfilled, so this is an issue.
So Gemma comes to visit us. She has a yoni tantric massage which eases her sexual tension and allows her to be more patient in working through the issues her and her partner are facing. Once she’s satisfied, she’s not so emotionally challenged by the focus of his needs within their marriage. She’s even more able to feel that connection with him again as her mind isn’t so sexually charged all the time. And the closeness they once had filters back into their lives.
Gemma isn’t an actual person. She’s a hybrid of all the clients like her, who suffer with similar relationship complications in that there in no intimacy in marriage from husband. We would never divulge the situations of particular clients. You can be certain of our commitment to your privacy at all times.
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