What is erotic hypnosis and how does it work?

What is erotic hypnosis and how does it work?

The term erotic hypnosis has been floating around for a while, but there has been a recent growth in chatter. When you look on the internet there is a lot of trash talk about it. If you want to see some of that, just look at Pornhub. That is NOT what we’re talking about.

Here’s the truth.

The definition of erotic hypnosis. 

By creating a state of heightened awareness, we build a state of mind that is more able to receive a suggestion. For instance, if you have an active imagination, then during the process of erotic hypnosis we’re stimulating that even further. If you normally are not so creative of mind, we awake that side of you.

During the process you build a detachment from your physical self which may sound odd as the whole point for many clients is to have greater, more intense orgasms. But this detachment brings about access to your psycho-spiritual self, which in turn gives you a greater sensitivity to sound and touch. 

This is what allows you to reach a heightened state of sexual symbiosis.

What is hypnosis?

This is the state of heightened awareness. Some people train in it. To be clear, we haven’t, we’re tantra experts who use the mind to bring you to the same state of being able to access different ways of thinking and use of your imagination.

You don’t need to worry about this; we are experienced and trained, and the title is just that. At its core, hypnosis is self managed. You allow yourself to be a willing participant, similar to meditation and mindfulness.

This is how over time clients learn to put themselves in this state of mind whilst being totally alone and experience deeper orgasms through the suggestions they allow their mind to create.

What is hypnotherapy?

This is the process of using the hypnotic state of your mind for whatever therapy you choose, This could be more intensive orgasm or for a male, enhancement of your penis, whether this be in the time it takes to ejaculate or strengthening the hardness of your penis without pills. It could even help anxiety surrounding a sexual encounter. These are just examples, the list is endless.

History of hypnosis.

Hypnosis has been around for years, thousands in fact. Its roots are traced all the way to the ancient Hindus and Greeks. This is why erotic hypnosis has great roots with tantra.

Is erotic hypnosis real?

For sure. And it has been around for years, even though the term has only recently gained public awareness. We use this to develop the trance like state that we go into during an elevated tantra experience. Before being known as erotic hypnosis, the same thing was often referred to as ‘recreational hypnosis’ or ‘hypnotic fantasy,’

How does it work?

Generally one person will adapt the position of authority or power during the process. In terms of tantra, this will always be your tantric therapist. And then you’ll relax, breathe and life away from your body and into the pleasures of your erotic mind.

Will I fall asleep, it’s meant to be erotic?

No. You will be anything but asleep. You will feel deeply relaxed with a heightened state of internal consciousness. The outside world will be irrelevant for this period, as your subconscious is more open to the power of suggestion.

Instead of falling asleep, you’ll use visualisation in a similar way to if you’re working with guided meditation to stimulate thoughts in your brain and achieve this deep state of arousal.

What happens during the session?

As with a tantric massage, these sessions start with deep breathing. You can choose to keep your eyes open or closed. Whichever you decide, this process helps to calm your mind and set the scene for more specific mental role playing.

erotic hypnosis role play of bondage BDSM
BDSM role play including bondage could be a fantasy that you play out with erotic hypnosis

Your therapist will be dominant and you will comply with the fantasy role you have been given. This could extend to BDSM, multiple partners, sex outside of your marriage/ relationship or any other topic of your choosing. If you’d prefer to leave this blank, then that’s fine too. The topic if you choose one is entirely your fantasy. As trust builds over time and your therapist takes on more of a friend role, you may extend the scenarios.

Isn’t this mind control?

Nope. It is not. Your therapist will be taking the role of dominant, but they will not be controlling you and when you finish your session, your life will go back to normal. With the exception that you may be more sexually and sensually aware. 

Your tantra therapist will provide stimulus through erotic suggestions and you will take these to your mind and allow your body, in its relaxed state, to focus and run with these.

Whilst you have given your consent at the beginning during the consultation process, you will be able to speak and act on your own will at any time during the process. It is a common misconception that you are entirely a tool for your therapist’s intimate and psychological games during the practice.

That said, you do need to be open to receiving a new experience, otherwise you won’t experience the benefits. If you don’t trust then your mind won’t switch to the state of hypnosis and your tantric therapist’s words will be just a voice that you listen to.

Am I allowed to touch my therapist during erotic hypnosis?

No. That is the opposite of the point. You’re not even going to touch yourself, if you have an orgasm it will be a hands-free orgasm. The only contact with your therapist will be their words and the emotional connection which transports you to your most private world.

Will this help my relationship issues?

It depends why you have them. If it is from lack of control or sexual matching, then it could do because erotic hypnosis works with an individual so they eventually can easily access different levels of intimacy. 

But, if your issues are due to some external factor, then it’s unlikely that erotic hypnosis will answer those forms of pain.

Who is erotic hypnosis good for?

Anyone who is struggling to enjoy pleasure from their current sexual relationship but does not want to cheat. on your partner. You don’t even have to be undressed during this activity. The choice is yours. Your therapist will be clothed.

If you want to participate in an alternative type of sensual exposure, then this is a risk free way of doing so. You may also surprise yourself at the sexual fantasies that you held so deep within yourself that you didn’t know they existed.

This is an hour’s session and it costs £120 for the hour. Text us now to book.

Consider this a form of sexual entertainment if you don’t have any sexual issues. There are no risks. You’re just having fun in a safe environment. There’s no age limit, no issue if you’re a female or male, erotic hypnosis can help everyone. As long as you’re willing.

Premature ejaculatory dysfunction

Premature ejaculatory dysfunction

In most cases, there isn’t a medical cause for premature ejaculatory dysfunction in males. Otherwise known as premature ejaculation (PE), this form of erectile dysfunction is officially when a man ejaculates before or within about a minute of penetration. 

However, the combination of the female involved being upset with the speed of your performance, along with your own feelings of failure, can lead to many psychological side effects.

Side effects of premature ejaculation

It’s not uncommon for PE to contribute to damaging emotions such as shame and humiliation, distress as well as anxiety and depression. In time, this can mean that the man may even have problems getting or maintaining an erection due to him being overly nervous. If you’re using condoms, it won’t be uncommon for him to lose his erection before he even gets the thing on at this stage.

Panic not. You are understood.

The good news is that with a little understanding, premature ejaculatory dysfunction can be relatively easy to sort out. 

In order to do this, we need a little background. Men and women work differently – down there…

Males and females experience sexual pleasure in different ways. Men enjoy sex just as much if it lasts for an hour or a minute, whereas for women, intercourse can get better over a longer period. Beware though men. Women don’t just want you to go longer. They need stimulating with a variety of sensations. This can be a common misunderstanding between the sexes, but is actually really helpful if you’re suffering from premature ejaculatory dysfunction.

If you’re a woman reading this because your partner isn’t satisfying you, it may be that he simply does not understand. If this is the case, then a gentle and encouraging conversation can go a long way to solving your problems. That’s even more likely when you understand how to control your arousal and be able to more closely match it to your partner’s.

Tantra is fabulous at giving you the tools to find that meeting point. For men to slow down and for women to move faster. It’s all about being more sexually intuitive.

The deal with tantra is that it’s all about going slow. Have you heard about people saying they’ve spent hours having tantric sex?

We have.

But here’s the biggy.

Tantric sex isn’t about spending hours with a man’s penis inside you. Penetration is part of the whole sensual experience between a couple, but the practice of tantra actually takes practice. And patience.

Couples prolong intercourse for as long as they can, and the orgasm. This builds up a whole load of intense excitement in both your body through genital foreplay and your mind via breath work and meditations which trust us, amount to non-touching foreplay.

This kind of delayed arrival at the end point is great whether you’re a man or a woman suffering with the effects of premature ejaculatory dysfunction.

You learn to hold the need to ejaculate on the brink. When you feel it rising, slow down your speed, pull away if necessary and count to as much as you need to in order to calm down the swell.

Over time, you’ll begin to delay the point at which you ejaculate and over time you’ll begin to wonder whether you ever had issues at all.

It’s all about how you treat premature ejaculation and your ability to not be beaten by it mentally. Because, as we keep saying, good sexual experiences and tantric sensuality is all about the mind. It’s only when you get this engaged that the body follows.

Treatment of premature ejaculation dysfunction.

There is no real medical treatment for premature ejaculation. This is largely because the factors are largely emotional, so medications aren’t effective. If you become depressed, antidepressants will actually dull your libido — not exactly where we’re headed with this.

The best medicine traditionally is talking counselling with a sex therapist rather than popping a drug. This can be speaking with someone, like us, about what you think the emotional causes of your physical issues are.

What will happen?

When you come to us, your session will start with a consultation. You may have already filled us in on text beforehand if talking face to face is difficult for you, but if not, we’ll have a chat to find out what’s going on. This will include you discussing whether you’ve had any recent surgery, when you are finding you’re having issues and what exactly resolving the problem typically means for you.

And then, we can take this further into a sensual massage setting where you will relax whilst your therapist uses an array of different techniques with the purpose of stimulating you, and then stopping before you release. Thus helping you to practice controlling the power of the innate urge. 

The benefit of her experience as well as compassion will aid your stimulation, but there is also something to be said for it not mattering whether ‘it’ works with her or not. She is a professional who has no emotional bearing on your life, if you break it down, all you’re doing is running through some simple exercises together, albeit in an incredibly intense and sensual setting.

Who cares?

For sure, she cares about your success, but you’re not letting her down. Her reputation depends on you making progress and she will do everything within her professional powers and training to get you to where you feel you are normal, but she won’t be let down by your difficulties. She is experienced and has worked with many people over her career and she knows that over time, with sufficient caring intimacy, you will improve.

By operating within this caring environment, and being persistent, refusing to be disheartened, you will last longer. Although we won’t deny that practice makes perfect when dealing with sexual dysfunction. But, over time, you’ll develop confidence over the course of your treatments. 

You’ll learn fun stuff for home

You’ll also learn masturbation play to use at home so that you can keep your lady happy whilst you’re making your progress. The last thing anyone wants is for frustration to creep into your relationship.

In addition, we’ll also teach you how to help her to better tie her arousal in with your timeline so that you’re better aligned to achieve simultaneous climax. We’re willing to bet that this will be helpful for you as a couple, that you’ll grow closer, as will your desire.

If you have any concerns about your health, you should always seek advice from a doctor or medical practitioner. We are treating your dysfunctions symptoms with your personal program, not providing a diagnosis.

Intimate questions to ask your partner.

Intimate questions to ask your partner.

If you’re looking to build a deeper connection within your relationship, then here is the ultimate list of intimate questions to ask your partner. 

Why do I need to ask intimate questions?

Do you remember those first days of love? How much did you talk? And how close and connected did you feel in those moments? 

Building intimacy with a partner within a relationship is often pushed aside as life takes over. We even dare to think that we know everything about the other, when in fact we’re all constantly changing and adapting to our new lives and the world within which we live. 

So, if you want to build a connection, and give it a chance at longevity, then what’s the harm in going back to the techniques that helped you find love in the first place?

I’m in a contract marriage/ arranged marriage. Love was never there.

This doesn’t matter. Because intimacy develops over time. The biggest misconception is that your wedding day is the happiest day of your life. For me, it will be the day that I die, with my husband there, holding my hand, knowing that we’ve been through everything together. How we started out won’t matter at that point. By then, it’s all about the depth of emotion and this will help you regardless of whether you started out life within an arranged or contract marriage.

Why is it important to ask my partner intimate questions?

Getting to know your partner’s internal world is everything. This is what makes them tick on the inside. Understanding this will allow you to second guess their emotions, their fears and their loves. All of this makes you a better partner, which makes them love and appreciate you more. And this is how we breed a connected future based on partnership.

Read about Building Intimacy in a Relationship

How do I use these questions?

Think about it this way. No life is perfect. No relationship is how a movie will portray it. And no boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse is without their faults. We’re not talking about reaching the heights of romantic disillusionment here. We’re talking about changing up the dance steps of our daily conversation using these intimate questions to ask your partner as a starting block for a conversation so that couples can learn a little more about their evolving partner and appreciate them more.

So choose your moment to ask your partner these intimate questions. Don’t read through them from top to bottom and present your lover with a list. We prefer to think that they’re here to give you a starting point for the time when you’re stuck in traffic. A topic of new discussion that will drive you closer to your dream of being the ultimate couple.

Finding out more about our lover will change up the comfortable monotony and it doesn’t all have to be about the bedroom just because we’re talking intimacy!

Side note:

Adult pleasure is all about the business of shutting down the brain so we have the emotional space to open up and explore sexually. This is what the tantric experience is all about. It’s about watching a person’s true character float free. And it will only do that when you have a connection and trust.

And listen to their answer. If you ask, ‘if our relationship were a movie which one do you think it would be?’ and you’re presented with ‘Pretty Woman’ that has very different connotations to if you hear, ‘Basic Instinct.’ If you don’t understand the answer, ask. Like we say, these are a starter for ten. The rest is down to you.

  • Which qualities first attracted you to me. From here you can then go on to find out whether these are still important, whether you still possess them and it will give you a clue, without the need to get emotional, about where and if you need to improve areas that you are slacking. Hopefully it will be a fun conversation which will show how you have both changed since that time and how the things that made you happy once have now adapted to your new, conjoined lives as a family, often with kids.
  • If you were to name three memories, which ones were the most cute? Now, cute doesn’t sound helpful. But bear with us. The funny times, the warm times and even that really dirty night times are what bring us closer together. These are the types of shared experiences that build a shared past and mean that when we spend our future together, we’re more aligned. Once you have your answer, go on, get flirty. Use the information to build your future. Because this isn’t just about a dialogue.
  • What do I do that lets you know I love you? Within this question, you’re fishing to find out what makes your partner grateful to be with you. It may be sexual, such as satisfying them in a way that you know works. Or, it could be that you make them their first drink of the morning. Take note. These are the things you can do more of. For sure, you’re not going to make a second drink in the morning, you’re probably out of the door and on with your day by then. But perhaps grabbing a glass of wine out of the fridge on an evening may be a great touch.
  • What are our collective strengths? We’re not looking for how hot you are in this one, but for the real-life examples of how you rate your accomplishments. Pulling together in a way that compliments the other makes you more effective as a team, so thinking about a memory and learning from it, can help build a stronger, more easy future.
  • What is your best adventure? Now, we’re hopeful that this will be one that you took together. But if not, that’s OK. Because it gives you the chance to improve. To plan something of an equally memorable level that you can explore together as a couple. You’ll be surprised at how this can strengthen and support your position. If you’re both enjoying life and your shared experiences, then this can only lead to increased naughty pleasure.
Why did we make that last throw away line?

Here’s the thing. Physical intimacy is connected to the brain. That’s what our tantric training has taught us. This is why we can work with women who are notoriously committed to only have sensual experiences with their partner, and we can give them that sensual curiosity within the space of a few hours. Some people think it’s a huge accomplishment, but once you know how the body works with the mind, you will never underestimate the power of dating on living a sexy life.

So, if you’re looking for a non-confrontational list of Intimate questions to ask your partner then go ahead. Have fun!

Building intimacy in a relationship

Building intimacy in a relationship

It can be touch when you’re struggling with building intimacy in a relationship. This can happen when you first start out together, or when you’re trying to get back from a situation which has hurt one or both of you and you need to find your way back to your partner.

Sometimes the sex can suffer when we’re struggling with intimacy issues, but other times, and often more hurtful, this can be a time where it’s difficult for a partner to feel the love of their other half.

That feeling of being close and emotionally connected or supported isn’t there. The connection you are striving for is distant and so the process of being sexual or even any kind of physical contact with the other person can feel like it is a whole life away.

When you’re going through this, it’s not easy to understand that all relationships go through this. But exercise trust. Because we’ve got you with some hints and tips that will help you talk. Through showing your vulnerable side, you become a team again.

Developing intimacy in relationship.

First off, let’s discuss this, because intimacy in relationships can be significantly more than between a loving couple. Children are intimate with their parents, we’re all intimate in a different form with our friends. Being intimate with other people is one of the most natural states we crave as humans.

If you want to read more about this, then we have a great article, The Definition of Intimacy. Because today we are talking about building intimacy within a romantic relationship.

Intimacy and sex.

We can all have sex with anyone, physically, if we are able to make love with our partner, then our body is all geared up for those actions with anyone. However, how many times have you heard, ‘it’s not the same without the emotion?’

Sure, you might get the release, but it’s not making love. Because the bond that you’ve built through intimacy is missing. This leads to a sense of loss. Like the experience wasn’t all that it could have been. And this can lead to some people feeling lonely, even isolated, regardless of how often they are having sexual intercourse. Because the love and affection is missing.

Side note:

Tantra connects two energies in a similar way to how it does when you make love to your partner. If you like, it ‘fakes’ the intimacy giving you all the benefits of making love, without the need or commitment of doing so.

Difficulties couples face when trying to create intimacy.

There are some common reasons why some couples struggle with sharing that closeness, that signifies intimacy.

Communication issues. If you are your partner aren’t speaking openly and fully, then there is nothing to lay the hat of intimacy on. And this requires you both to participate. You both need to be honest about how you are feeling, what is missing and what you need. A word of caution here. This doesn’t mean you can be callous. Always watch how you express your feelings if you want to grow closer.

Conflict. If you have an ongoing conflict, for instance, one partner had an affair, then this will make intimacy an issue. Approach this with an open mind and know that anger, hurt and resentment can all bustle up into a difficult verbal relationship. The lack of trust will manifest into aggression or retreat rather than open communication. This takes time.

It may not be easy to just talk, and for worries to be resolved. For instance, if you have money worries, they don’t just go away because you talk about them. But finding a way to work together so you both appreciate the other is vital here.

Abuse or violence, either ongoing or in a past life can cause issues in building intimacy in a relationship. These personal problems are deep rooted and you need to check in regularly with your partner and be that constant in their life that they need for support.

Intimacy builds over time. Building intimacy between a newly married couple or in an arranged marriage or contract marriage can require some common ground. Very often in these situations you don’t have as much history of being comfortable with each other. Likewise, if you’re pregnant before you’ve had time to properly plan kids. The spontaneity can be tricky. But don’t worry we have some simple exercises for you to focus on that with a little effort will help to build that intimacy, even if you are involved in a contract marriage or arranged marriage.

Couple after building intimacy in a relationship in a coffee shop snuggling unaware of the outside world

Building intimacy doesn’t come overnight. Be patient.

What’s our advice to help you connect with your partner?

Why people cheat

Celebrate all that is good about your relationship. Use words as well as actions to tell your partner that you appreciate them. And that you love them. One trick that I love is just before you settle down to sleep at night, think of just one thing that the person did for you that day that you appreciated. And thank them. You’ll be surprised at the results.

We’ve covered this earlier, but just in case you skipped ahead, this is worth reiterating. Talk. Openly. And listen. Make time for each other. It doesn’t have to be hours, just a few minutes where you don’t have anything else going on can be a tremendous help in building intimacy in a relationship. You only need a moment sometimes, Just enough to say, ‘I love the way you cook, your food is so flavoursome.’ It may sound like nothing, but enough of these moments count.

On that note, though, you won’t get intimacy if you don’t create the moments. So do it. Be together as a couple. Even if that is going for a walk and holding hands in the rain. Stopping the extraneous distractions really does help communication. So, anything that involves being calm together without distraction is a safe way to spend time together and build togetherness.

We touched on it briefly above, but touching is massive. After all, this is the end game of building intimacy in a relationship, right? Sure it is. So touch when you can. You don’t have to be the grabby perv that makes everyone’s skin crawl, just brush your hand over hers, or sweep some hair from her face. It’s the little things that count. Because as we’ve already said, intimacy takes time.

Here’s another we’ve already touched on (get it?). Accept that all relationships have their ups and downs. And you don’t always know when they’re coming. So embrace that and run with it without fear. Take these points and build them into your lifestyle to help you recover faster.

What are some questions to help me with building intimacy in a relationship?

The definition of intimacy.

The definition of intimacy.

When I think of the definition of intimacy, my natural reaction is sex. For me, the two are inextricably linked.

Perhaps it’s because I’m British and we substitute the two words interchangeably in a bid to be subtle. Because it’s only when you are in a relationship that you can start to understand what being intimate means for the two people involved. It’s like you have your very own dictionary that is unique only to the two of you. If you end up in another relationship, the definition could be very different.

For some, intimacy means sex. Others take it to mean the small things that your partner will do for you — they know you well enough to second guess what you would like. And many an affair has been spotted by a partner through noticing the way their partner will just talk with another, a held gaze, the slightest of touches or simple proximity can give the game away. There are roughly about a gazillion different interpretations.

But don’t despair.

That’s before we even start looking at the difference between emotional intimacy and sexual. Some people will consider it to be a betrayal of trust if their spouse becomes engaged on an emotional level with someone else. Regardless of whether there has been any physical philandering. This is because a wife is supposed to be the person their husband goes to for support. And vice versa. So, when one partner steps away from this and chooses another, a fear of betrayal sets in and this can affect the closeness the deferred partner feels.

Other couples are perfectly happy as long as everything between other people remains intellectual. As long as there’s no touching, all is good. That’s because within this relationship, the one thing that sets it aside from all other links is the sexual nature of the relationship.

And then we move onto the couples who have open relationships. Whether this be polygamous or otherwise, the physical nature of their togetherness is less important than the spiritual connection the two people hold.

It’s easy to see with these examples above why couples fall into issues navigating their way through the minefield regarding the definition of intimacy. Because there is no clear meaning. And it’s not even easy to talk to friends about, because this is the kind of feelings that people keep well hidden within their personal lives.

So, where do you find your direction?

First, consider what your most intimate moments with your partner have been.

For some people, the most intimate moments could come right after an argument. You know, that time when one moment you want to throttle your partner, and the next you’re wondering how you could ever live without them? When the conflict is over, you’ve stopped hurling abuse and one person has apologised; those few warm minutes that you share hugging and being emotionally connected. Are they your most intimate moment?

If so, then it could be that for you, you’re connected on a physical level and so sex could be the definition of your intimacy.

Others may be more connected during the act of sexual intercourse. That moment of letting go and allowing your soul to float free also enables your two hearts to connect and develops a quality of understanding without the need for words.

Man and woman burning with desire, about to make love
How are you intimate with your partner?

If this is you, then I guess it’s pretty safe to say that sex could be your definition of intimacy.

Jumping to the other extreme, trusting someone with every facet of your being could be determined as the ultimate intimacy, You have enough confidence in them that you are certain you can reveal, or you have revealed even your most shameful aspects and they are still knocking around.

This is where it gets tricky.

Because you could do this to a partner, or to a friend. Even a counsellor. For you, intimacy could well be defined as an emotional connection whereby you take down walls. If this is you, I’d urge you to consider whether the person on the other side is as familiar with you as you are with them. If not, this one sided relationship is not a true definition of intimacy. Not for me, at least. Because my understanding is that a relationship is two sided and equal.

Because you could do this to a partner, or to a friend. Even a counsellor. For you, intimacy could well be defined as an emotional connection whereby you take down walls. If this is you, I’d urge you to consider whether the person on the other side is as familiar with you as you are with them. If not, this one sided relationship is not a true definition of intimacy. Not for me, at least. Because my understanding is that a relationship is two sided and equal.

If you can say yes, the other person is not only compassionate about your feeling, but you have sufficient bond that they also confide their deepest secrets, desires and fears in you, then you are intimate together.

And for you, this could then be that you experience intimacy from shared emotional support rather than bodies connecting.

This leads us to our next point. Intimacy can not only happen on many levels but also with different people.

Have you ever had the connection with someone.

You see them, and they see you.

You talk about everything.

There’s a slow, lingering development of burning desire. Over time, it creeps into every ounce of your consciousness so that you can’t operate without thinking about how attractive they are. You’re sure they’re your soul mate, they are sure too. Neither of you have ever experienced anything in life like this. They have to be the one.

But you’re both attached. You move away from each other. It’s the right thing. You have a loving relationship, you can not hurt the other person that you have committed your life to.

The desire deepens when you try to shut it down. You keep telling yourself that if you ignore all this stuff that is messing with your head will just go away in time. It’s healthier to concentrate on your partner. You start throwing yourself into this relationship and it even perks up a bit.

But then bang.

You see, the individual again out of the blue and the emotions fly back. Except that this time you’re not prepared. There hasn’t been the slow build up that has given you the time to build a wall. This romantic entanglement is now just more enhanced.

What to do?

Eventually, you don’t decide, you’re an unwilling participant, but you find yourself moving closer, keen to explore what you’ve been denying.

You book a hotel and find an excuse. Your heart is racing. The time comes, you meet. It’s awkward, but you expected this. Pushing it to the back of your mind, you plough on, allowing fingers to explore and tongues to mingle with a strange breath. You move to the bed, remove one item of clothing after another.

The definition of intimacy. Is there ever one answer?
Just when you thought you were safe, the chemical connection takes over

And then it’s the moment. You take a deep breath, ready.

Have you been there?

It’s exciting up to this point. Everything you have allowed to develop over the months sometimes years before are compounding into this moment where you are allowing your physical selves to express what is natural.

But, the moment. The actual moment that you have been waiting all this time for is so underwhelming, it’s this that takes away your breath rather than the beauty of human touch.

What is intimate about this moment? Do you still want to be with that person once you’ve got the night of disappointing sex out of your system?

Sadly, only your answer will tell you what intimacy means to you. If the near compulsive urge to share yourself with another is your definition of intimacy, then so be it. If it’s the emotional connection that drove you to that moment, then that’s your answer. And if it’s the lot wrapped up within the blanket of forbidden excitement, that that is also your answer.

Here’s the churn.

Your partner very often will have a totally different take on that scenario. They may be thinking about the person left at home. How many times have we heard it said that if you put as much effort into me as you do your ‘xyz’ then we’d be in a better place?

We’re random beings often confusing a chemical connection, kinetic energy if you like for intimacy.

That’s what we do here. When we give a sensual or tantric massage, we employ techniques at the beginning which allow our energies to connect. This simulates that connection and takes your experience to a much deeper, more intimate level than a standard massage. There’s a huge benefit to being able to do this. You will never have experienced something like this, because unlike the scenario above, we know how to keep that connection going through the sensual experience. But, out in the real world, don’t be fooled. What we offer is an escape away from reality so you can feel the power of that connection without becoming embroiled in any of the violating emotions we discussed above.

What we offer won’t take over your life. It will enhance it.

We won’t threaten the sanctity of what you hold with your partner. We’ll give you fulfilment in areas that are lacking, allowing you to continue with what you hold most dear.

And when you visit us for a sensual or tantric massage, you won’t experience any of the inevitable downward spiral of hurt. You’ll be conducting yourself wisely, allowing a single embrace to be left alone when you go home. There will be no proof of any misgivings, but you’ll be allowed the space to discover your edge. To take yourself beyond a boundary you didn’t know existed.

Our professionalism in sensual massage Romford will help you with solving unanswered questions about yourself in a safe and secure environment. And this focus drives your relationship at home into a better, more secure space. Because, as we’ve discovered, there are not only different definitions of intimacy but also different styles of relationships where the power for intimacy is granted in layers. According to need.

Who says you need to have all your intimacy directed towards one person?

Once you understand this, and more importantly accept it and stop wondering about the definition of intimacy and start living your best life. The frightening prospect of an unfulfilled future is no longer an issue. Consider this a therapy if you like, a place where you allow levels of vulnerability that are difficult to expose in some circumstances, to fly free with a professional whose opinions are helpful but not important to the two souls connected within your long term relationship.

Sensual massage music Spotify

Sensual massage music Spotify

If you’re looking for sensual massage music on Spotify then you’re in a great place, because as sensual massage experts we know the importance of setting the mood. Everything from mood lighting to the low music you listen to in the background all combine to enhance the sensuality of the experience.

That’s why we’ve personalised a playlist that will help you personalise the massage you give to your loved one and drive, the best, most intimate moments in time. Oh and by the way. This works great whether you’re a couple or just meeting someone for the first time. Just be sure if this is a stranger, that you perhaps knock back some of the middle songs until later on in the massage experience, they’re definitely not the kind of songs you’d hear in a spa.

Here’s our playlist.

Breathing Synchronisation Tantric Music Masters — This first one does what it says on the tin. When we conjoin our breathing at the beginning, then this is the perfect accompaniment as it helps to mask any self-consciousness

Energy Merging — Love Romance Music Zone — Exactly as it says, your breathing is aligned and your energy is interlinking. A beautiful spiritual moment.

Fertility Energy Tantric Music Masters — The beat in this song is at the exact right tempo to engage with your heartbeat and encourage stimulation

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Make your massage an erotic massage with the right sensual music from Spotify

Night With Goddess –Tantric Massage — The heartbeat speeds for this track.

Healing Beats Tantra Yoga Masters — The way the music eases in and out of this is reminiscent of heavy breathing. This helps to reduce any embarrassment either one of you may have about letting go.

Erotic Senses Tantric Massage — Again another track which guides your partner into the confidence of letting go.

Sounds of Pleasure Tantric Massage — Pleasure grows more overt now.

Night Tantra Tantra Yoga Masters— Whilst we don’t recommend bird music generally for encouraging stimulation, this one is a great choice for when the tension is building as it represents the static in your brain as energy whooshes around and you start to lose control.

Men Tantra Tantra Yoga Masters— Also the right choice for when that hot tension is building.

Just Believe Tantra Yoga Masters– Perfect for when you’re coming back down again, during the process of edging.

Slow Love on Beach Tantric Music – Just a moment of calm where the waves represent the swooshing of your hormones.

Own Thoughts Tantra Yoga Masters — When we’re building back to another crescendo this is a wonderful choice.

Natural Aphrodisiac Tantric Massage — When you’re done and both of you are soooo relaxed and on that endorphin high.

Couple Meditation — Love Romance Music Zone — Drifting off to sleep holding each other close as you float away in each other’s arms.

We could go on forever, particularly as this will probably be more than a snatched moment alone. So, below are some tips on how to make sure you expand your list on Spotify to meet your personal requirements.

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Find your own music, find your own style. But don’t lose the heat.

Finding your own music.

If you’re looking for beautiful hot tantra music that will get your partner hot then don’t just plump for new age wellness bird songs and waterfalls. There are a ton of generic relaxing playlists out there that wrap themselves up as being sensual, when in truth they’re no more sexy or erotic than a day out in nature.

You are looking for something with an undercurrent. A beat that will tune in with your heart and music made from erotic undertones rather than light flutes that reduce stress.

For sure, the whole point of tantra and sensual massage is that we reduce stress so you and your partner can get in touch with your inner sensuality, but there are ways to do this. And music that concentrates on those pure points to relax will induce calming moments rather than the intensity of sweaty skin on skin.

To make this Spotify playlist yourself, all you need to do is open up the Spotify app and find the songs. Then follow our guide on how to choose appropriately sexy tracks for the purity of each moment and then you can relax in the knowledge that when the time is right, you have everything you need.

Do I need to know anything about tantric massage to be able to give a great sensual massage to my partner?

It helps for sure. If you can personalise the experience you give someone with expert knowledge then all the better. But if you don’t then we’ve written this blog full of tips and advice for the specific purposes of helping you wherever you are in the tantric journey.

I’d prefer to experience a professional sensual or tantric massage services beforehand. Is this OK?

Yes, just book in by texting us on 07982 491392 and we’ll get you booked in. That way when you give the sensual massage to your partners you have experienced it yourself, you have a benchmark for your own measurement which gives you confidence.

I’m not sure I’ll be able to tell the difference between these hot tantric tunes and spa sounds

Oh, you will. Once you’ve listened to a few of the hot tracks, you’ll hear how they help partners to open up and their beat mimics the beautiful junctures of your sexy massage. You’ll hear that even in the calm moments, even though there is a relaxing undertone, this also combines with some kind of a reference to the sounds of our body’s. Listen closely and you’ll soon be able to spot the lilt of pure new age music which is only focussed on nature and calming.

But, like we said earlier, don’t be fooled by the title of the album or track in the app. Nor by the cover. Listen to the sounds that run through and if you have the right tracks, you’ll hear a rise of a waterfall that subsides like the rush of an orgasm. Or the calming wash of a wave will suddenly crash. White noise will distort everything else that plays behind it. That’s the type of sound you’re listening for,

These may not on the surface sound like sexy sounds, but when you tie them into the rise and fall of a great sensual massage, and the way your body and heart will race and then relax, you’re onto a winner.

How can I make my massage erotic, rather than just a boring old massage.

In this blog we’re talking about music and specifically tuning into Spotify so you have the music ready and you can just press play. But, first off, think about what would need to be in place to make this a calming moment for you. Get that right and you’re half way there. We’ll cover off some more tips to avoid producing a moment which is a simple stress buster and will help make sure that you turn this into one of those beautiful intimate moments where you’ll relax, but also engage.

Do your research, listen to the music ahead of time, save it into the Spotify app and then find the right moment when you’re both relaxing and gradually build up the heat together.