Alice was lonely after her husband passed, in every way, including being sexually lonely. It’s one emotion that friends are afraid to cover. Sex. It can be intimidating to bring this up in a society that hides sexual connection away behind closed doors. Particularly when we’re talking about women, although Alice’s situation is just as valid in our male clients.
But, Alice’s needs were real and her new isolation lead her to an increased sense of feeling sexually lonely.
It doesn’t matter how your loved one’s pass, it still leaves you with feelings of isolation.
Bereavement can be a tricky time emotionally and this is further impacted by sexual loneliness. At the time when Alice was craving human contact, she was at her most isolated. It’s not like she was ready, if ever, to embark on a new relationship and so the coil of unreleased sexual tension continued to rise. Combine this with her already turbulent emotions — she just needed a release.
A release where the only factor was joy.
Within an environment, where she didn’t feel guilt or the need to apologise, for being human. Where no-one would judge her for being a woman in every sense of the word.
And in a professional setting where she needn’t worry about calling someone back or going out to dinner, or about them becoming obsessed when she simply didn’t have the energy to give to a relationship. Alice had needs, but she was busy healing. She had nothing else left to commit to developing a relationship.
For sure, masturbation helps for a brief period. However, in the long term, whatever gender you are, we all crave human touch. And so eventually, orgasm and easing sexual frustration needs to rise from intimacy with another person. Don’t underestimate the power of human touch.
That’s why Alice chose to be with someone who provided a sense of love and physical support, whilst expecting no gratification in return. She could come and be satisfied, while having no responsibility for satisfying a partner.
We’re not providing relationships for our clients and whilst there is a huge element of emotional support that comes from the experiences, we don’t offer a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship. This leads to a safe environment where our ladies can book a slot to experience pure sexual pleasure with a trained therapist. But, don’t get confused, whilst we’re not here to court you and this is a job, you won’t feel you’re a number.
We talk to all our clients before and often during your session. We’re people working with people, and we hold compassion at the heart of everything we do.
Alice’s husband had died suddenly
This isn’t the case for everyone. Perhaps your partner hasn’t even passed yet. If they’re sick, this is often a prolonged period where your needs come second. But for Alice this wasn’t the case.
There had been a terrible accident, and she didn’t go to bed with the childhood sweetheart who she had woken up with that morning and every morning since they were both only the age of 16.
Alice had been in counselling with a therapist who suggested that she find an outlet with a genuine sexual therapist for her first time since being with her husband to whom she lost her virginity. Don’t get us wrong, we’re not about to offer you sex. This is about sexual relief and avoiding being sexually lonely by giving you one of the most basic human needs. Intimate physical contact.
Alice was nervous
She cancelled her first session. And her second. This is why we take a deposit now, because at some point, you need to have the push to take the very scary first step towards easing your path to being sexually fulfilled.
When she showed up, she parked on the drive and it wasn’t just shyness she was experiencing. She was shaking with a huge fear of the unknown.
What was she getting herself into?
Would she end up putting herself in a vulnerable position in which we could take advantage of her?
What if people found out, it’s not the culture to go looking for affection in strange places?
What if the guy’s attractiveness meant he had real arrogant qualities?
And g*d forbid, what if this was a brother type experience masquerading as therapy?
This is natural. For men and females. There is an actual expected sense of shame. also rolled into all of those valid questions.
As soon as you meet us, you’ll know this isn’t what we’re about. We can relate to your situation and don’t forget we’ve trained in something for a reason. We don’t think there is anything wrong with our clients; we want to soothe your pain and frustration.
Some people need words and phrases through the art of verbal counselling, and we offer an alternative to that. A much needed escape from reality through unlocking the deep rooted power of intimacy. We will always respect your boundaries.
Anyway, after that first time, Alice then made the two-hour journey once a week. After about six months she started coming every other week and as she healed and grew in confidence, she knocked back her sessions further until she found a boyfriend.
We glimpsed her again after she suffered another loss, but this time it was only for a few sessions. She could heal way faster this time, which filled our soul with love.
It’s stories like Alice that make us proud to be doing the work we do. Why should touch be limited to those who haven’t suffered an excruciating loss? It’s ridiculous. You need its comfort the most because this is when people are lonely and we don’t believe that our society gets to choose how fulfilled and at peace you are.
Alice’s story could as apply to people who have been the victims of sexual assault, or like we said earlier who still have their partner alive but are still sexually lonely because of individual circumstances. It could also be the story of many people trapped in a loving relationship, but remain bored and lonely.
It doesn’t matter what factors have prompted you to read this article, if you’ve reached this point, then there’s no need for you to continue being miserable, we can help you ease your feelings of sexual loneliness.
NOTE: Alice isn’t real, in that she isn’t one person. Instead, to protect the privacy of all our clients, she is a hybrid, representative of the people we see.
Emma was feeling sexually frustrated in her marriage after she became pregnant.
Her husband lost interest in sexual intercourse and Emma’s sexual frustration grew over time. Eventually the pressure of not having sex meant that she began looking elsewhere to quell her feeling sexual frustration.
Feeling sexually frustrated isn’t always about libido
Couples often expect a woman’s libido to reduce when she is pregnant and if we’re not careful this can lead to depression as women become aware, often mistakenly, that they are no longer attractive to their partners. This body anxiety, combined with experiencing a changing sexuality as hormones fluctuate can lead to an immense feeling sexually frustrated.
She didn’t want to cheat on her partner, she loves him. But, needs are needs and it’s not as easy as it once was to masturbate when you have a huge belly in the way.
Emma’s needs are real
Emma’s needs are real and so she had to find a solution to this problem before she grew into a fiery ball of rage and stress at not having had an orgasm within her relationship.
When she found us, she was nervous at first. After all this isn’t a life experience that a normal person and women in particular talk about. We would argue from our experience that it is more common than people let on. But, dealing with our desire is something we are conditioned to keeping private.
Being nervous, it was important for Emma to speak to her therapist on the phone before her appointment and have a chance to question him about the format of her pleasure experience.
This helped to ease her nerves about intimacy with a stranger without any hint of love. She was also suffering with feelings of a lack of body confidence being that she looks different to how she usually feels comfortable.
Nerves are normal, but they don’t last
When she arrived she was still nervous, the first time you have a yoni tantra massage it’s strange. But within five minutes she was able to relax and enjoy a the gentle touch of this massage experience whereby she was the only focus.
Emma has since become a regular client working the yoni tantra massage therapy into a healthy part of her lifestyle as a mother and wife.
Some would argue that this is a sign of some form of dysfunction within her relationships, but actually Emma argues that having time carved out to concentrate only on herself allows her to give more during the rest of her life to those who she loves and supports without feelings of resentment.
NOTE: Emma is typical of the type of clients who visit us for a yoni tantric massage. In our meet our clients piece we don’t actually tell you real names and may include many pieces of clients together. We ALWAYS respect the privacy of every single client we meet.
When you’re asking what is a naturist massage, it’s also important to understand a few key points. Because not all naturist massages are equal.
Here we’ll break down what each is and what naturist massage means for each. This will allow you to make an informed decision about whether you would like to book a professional tantric therapeutic massage with us, or to book one of the erotic massages offered by providers on directories.
Tantric Massage Therapy
Tantra andtantricmassage are buzzwords. But who understands what they mean? It’s an intricate method of delving into ourselves where red is for sexual tantra and white is for self-discovery. So the term tantra is broad. And this is confusing.
As the many directories advertise tantra massage when they don’t even know what makes a massage tantric.
There are so many kinds of massage and it’s confusing knowing what it is you should choose. Intimate massage can be a special service that makes you feel amazing. Or it can fall flat.
What is a Sensual Massage?
Pleasure massages are ones where there is no muscular work, and the focus is on sensuality. We may refer these to as
They’ll include hand relief, hand release or happy ending. These are all terms for the same thing. Ejaculation.
These massages last between one or two hours.
Any of the above pleasure massage will cover your full-body and finish with massage of your sexual organs/ genitals. The technical term for this is a lingam massage, although we can include this throughout the massage with the release at the end. The female equivalent is yoni massage.
The pleasure massages are relaxing experiences which allow sexual release in an environment where you feel comfortable and safe. These erotic massages are great for stress relief whilst being pampered in expert and safe hands.
Sensual massage does not include oral or penetrative sex.
Tantric Massage vs Sensual Massage
Traditional tantric massage is a level up from sensual massage or erotic massage. Your therapist will have trained at a specialist school where they learnt tantric practices. They’ll pass these onto you.
We have done this training and have adapted our sensual massage experiences to include some tantra elements for your heightened enjoyment. We’ll open up energy flow, and therefore even the sensual massages that we offer take time. Tantra is a minimum of two hours although we understand that this is an enormous commitment for many people and so we offer a 1.5 hour option. It’s not as good though!
There is tantric sex, but this isn’t what is on offer in a tantric therapy experience. We’re working with your energy and healing practices to provide you an elevated level of intimacy and connection – and enjoyment from your body. We’ll activate energy flow that some people say is like being high. This natural and pure hedonistic pleasure doesn’t have the side effects of drugs.
Tantric massage will allow you to experience your sexuality in a brand new light. This will open up your mind to a new understanding of your nature — being spiritual and sensual. Tantra will also make you a better physical lover.
So back to our original question, what is a naturist massage?
For us, naturist massage means you are naked. Your therapist may or may not be naked, but because the massages we offer are mostly of a deeply sensual nature, we feel it is better if both you and your masseuse are completely naked for the duration of your treatment.
If you’re having a more therapeutic touch such as deep tissue with hand release, then because your session is about healing your muscles rather than your mind and soul, although you’re getting an orgasm at the end, the focus isn’t on sensuality. You will be naked for your massage, but your therapist will not.
What are the benefits to a naturist massage?
What you can expect varies by the different modalities. they allow your life force to flow in an authentic sensual environment. This nudist experience is liberating, giving you not only sexual relief and self-discovery but also some warm steps to enjoy with your partner.
Where are you based?
You can enjoy any of our naturist massages at our modern tantra space in Romford. This borders on Essex and East London. If you’d like to know more about the techniques, there is a greater run down here. If you have questions, then you might want to check out our FAQ page which will give you immediate answers as we can’t always reply immediately to your text messages.
If you’re looking for Essex Tantric Massage, then you’re in the right place. Our tantra therapists are trained in tantra, we’re English and experienced.
We’ve been healing people with tantra techniques for almost ten years now and have many regular clients from in and around Essex and London and further afield. The joy of our location in Romford, Essex, is that we’re close to the M25 and the intersection of the A12 and A127.
Who are your Essex tantric therapists?
We work with guys and women. Our female therapist will work with our male clients and our male tantra therapist will work with ladies.
We don’t work with couples and we don’t come out to your location. This is because we have the perfect relaxing environment set up at our tantric therapy centre in Essex. Mood is a key component to a quality tantric experience including lighting, music and the overall environment.
So, whilst some other masseuses will come out to your home or hotel room, we will not.
Rather than take every client going, we prefer to give a quality tantric Essex experience that you will remember for the rest of your life.
How much time does a tantra massage take?
In terms of the time it takes. A true tantric Essex massage is a minimum of 1.5 hours. We’d recommend 2 hours if you can spare it. Tantra is slow. It’s about languid enjoyment of your inner self and your partner’s touch.
This means we spend time on connecting our soul and our mind at the beginning through breathing and meditation. We then gradually build sexual tension.
What’s the difference between tantric therapy and tantra sex?
This is a whole other post, but tantric therapy takes into account your entire body, including your mind. We’re working with you so you learn how to delve inwards and experience a calm that allows you to discover the depths of hidden pleasure stress locks away.
Tantric sex on the other hand is about enjoying slow and languid sex with a partner.
Please note Essex tantric is tantric therapy, not tantra sex. You can come for tantric therapy with us and learn about yourself. Your tantra experience will give you the skills to go home and use during tantric sex.
The complete process will come more naturally with your partner when you have developed the skills we teach you during tantric therapy. That’s not to say that this unique holistic approach is like going to class with a teacher pupil relationship. No, you will enjoy every second of your tantric practice.
So will ejaculation be part of the tantric Essex experience?
More than likely. The key to understanding and therefore enjoying tantra is to not focus on the result though. Your therapist will use her techniques and sensuality to build erotic tension throughout. The power of this will ebb and flow, transporting you to a place of sensual dreams.
Some clients remark on how they feel they are floating during their empowering experience.
You will feel a warm sense of love. Passion will build, but so will the connection with your therapist. This is what we call tantric love and why this massage service is so good if you are feeling lonely. It is also great if you are maintaining celibacy but still want to enjoy your body.
Tantra massage is a spiritual craft. Orgasm is often part of it, but it need not be. More importantly is the build up of that crescendo which leads there. IT’s this process that guarantees the most powerful, toe curling, back arching, profound orgasmic experience. When it comes.
Then at the end, it may then feel right to allow orgasmic release through a lingam massage. But there are also plenty of clients who prefer to keep this sexual tension coiled up. They take it home and use the opportunity to have a fantastic, intimate time with their partner. The choice is yours, so please let your therapist know your goals beforehand.
If you have questions, please check out the FAQ page. You can read terms and conditions too before contacting us to ensure you have understood everything about how you will grow during your tantric journey.
Will my privacy be protected?
Of course. From a crudely financial perspective, if your privacy and safety isn’t important to us then we don’t have a viable business proposition. And our operations have been going for almost ten years. We will never divulge your experience to anyone. That is our mantra. Please bear this in mind when we ask for your medical history. We need to know this for your protection.